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How many times a day do you think you discuss or think about negative issues in your life or someone else’s life?

I have often suggested to my clients that they tape their conversations for one day to observe how much energy they expend making themselves and others crazed and humorless.

How does your day start? Do you begin by announcing how you wish you could stay in bed longer or how tired you are, or by asking why the weather isn’t better.

Do you follow this rhetoric with more of the same throughout the day?

When talking to a friend, significant other or co-worker, is your conversation sprinkled with negative opinions about other people’s looks, behaviors or actions?

Have you ever compared your energy level when you’re not whining and complaining to when you are? If you have, you may have noticed that you feel and even look better when you’re not talking about what’s wrong with everything and everyone around you.

I’m not a simpleton who thinks we can go through life without discussing events or people who bug us. Some of it is healthy. If we thought everything we did and everyone we were involved with was fabulous, we could find ourselves in many compromising situations.

I’ve noticed over the years that whining has become a national pastime.

If you watch television for a couple of hours or skim through magazines, you will feel yourself being flooded information about a host of things that could be wrong with you.The list is endless: too hairy, loss of hair, diarrhea, constipation, social anxiety, depression, nail fungus, hammertoes, relationship issues, lack of self-worth, clutter, wardrobe disasters, weather, kids from hell or toxic parents. You could have any one of these problems or all of them. And if you do, you can bet there is a medication or program to help you - but not without the side effects, all of which are listed. Confusion sets in and you wonder if being screwed up is better than the cure.

The news channels like CNN spend hours reporting every problem that is occurring on the globe at any given moment. You can feel good but in minutes fall into despair about a monsoon in China. I appreciate the possibilities of being globally informed and I know that I can shut off the television, but I would just like them to spend an equal amount of time telling us about what’s good about the world.

How about infusing us with hope and a sense that humanity is not doomed to dry up and blow away as a result of not drinking enough water?

The bottom line is that it all starts with us. Try to spend more time appreciating your life than getting aggravated by it. Share good news with your friends and family, even if the only thing you can think of is that you’re breathing.

And if something really bothers you, do something about it. If you can’t, learn to accept it. Try to keep the cup full and overflowing. It will help you have a long, juicy life.

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Cydny said:

I do thing that you make me cheer up and I see myself just as you said everything is wrong with me, hair, wight, legs. of course I did not always think so I was a model and now that I am getting older that is all i obsess about but you help me to see that I should be a better friend, person, mother. Thanks for all your insight love the tapes have almost all of them now.
cydny

November 15, 2007

Fran Hanna said:

I do think a lot about what I do wrong and I worry a lot about my daughter who has Connentive Tissue Disease and at the age of 29 is weakening. She is in pain everyday and now needs a wheelchair to get aroun in long distances. She is also blind. Every organ in her body is affected. I deal with it by not thinking about it, but right at times I fall apart. I feel helpless to help her and it is hard to see the light side of it. Your words do help.

September 24, 2007

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