I’m surprised we still have pilots flying planes, although there is an autopilot, so maybe they are not really in the cockpit. I find this trend in diminishing services to be ironic since we are in a culture of mostly stressed-out people who have to do more and more for themselves. We also have tons of gadgets that allow us to be with ourselves. You can tune people out by listening to your iPod, play video games by yourself or spend hours on your computer. I understand you can now also create a faux self that stands in for the self you would like to be.

When I was growing up, that was called crazy. In fact, I’m getting pretty tired of the word ‘‘self.’’ When did we get so invested in ourselves? Books abound that deal with living your real self, discovering yourself, making yourself over and hundreds of other ways to purge yourself and rid yourself of anyone and anything that’s toxic. Talk shows spend hours talking to people about themselves, and we spend hours watching them. Then we discuss them with other people who might have missed the show. We seem to be in an era of self-analysis that could lead to self-paralysis. How much time can we spend figuring ourselves out?

Most of us know what’s wrong with us. It’s just easier to keep going over it than to do something about it. Dr. Martin Seligman, author of ‘‘Authentic Happiness,’’ says in his book that many of the ills we experience as a culture - such as depression, anxiety, stress and loneliness - have resulted from the shift from ‘‘we to me.’’ Our grandparents were more focused on neighbors and community, and they shopped in neighborhood stores where they chatted with everyone. Maybe it’s time to have more service, rather than less, and maybe we should to try to get over ourselves.

By LORETTA LAROCHE For The Patriot Ledger

Author, humorist, PBS star and Fortune 500 trainer Loretta LaRoche lives in Plymouth. To share your pet peeves, questions or comments, write to The Humor Potential, 50 Court St., Plymouth 02360, send e-mail to This e-mail address is being protected from spam bots, you need JavaScript enabled to view it  or call toll- free 800-99-TADAH (82324). Copyright 2008 The Patriot Ledger Transmitted Monday, January 07, 2008

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